I’m a working mom, and a mom working at home

Like I said, I’m a working mom, and a mom working at home. How? One of the perks of running a small business is that I have a small office that I’ve literally fully turned into a nursery/play room. I mean literally – we painted it green, took out the desk, added a tv with dvd player, play table, toy chests, pack n’ play, Cars lounge chair, ecc.

Before baby number two came along, I had just my son at work with me from the time he was a few months old, ’till recently. But, let’s face it, you stick a toddle in a 10 by 10 room with the same toys day in and day out, he’s going start bouncing off the walls, literally. So for now, I am just taking my baby girl to work with me, who naps for a big chunk of the morning, allowing me to get anything done that requires two hands. The other part of the day is spent holding her while juggling tasks with every other arm, adding a foot in the mix here and there. Because my time is limited I decided to try out Brightline Janitorial Service so that I can spend more time on working and with my family.

Occasionally, Mommy forgets to take the keys with her when stepping outside for a break. On a couple of occasions, I’ve gotten locked out and had to call the best locksmith London has to offer. They always get me right back into my home quickly and efficiently.

So that leaves my toddler at home sometime with my husband, sometime with my mom, sometime with my mother in law.  At first, he would really put up a fight and scream and cry when I’d leave, but then it was like it didn’t bother him at all. But over time, I have been coming home and just getting into battles with him over the smallest things. He has been constantly saying mommy over and over again, whining, and sometimes even yelling it. He’s been crying over the littlest problems, and throwing tantrums at the most trivial things. Especially because I’ve also started writing for a magazine from home more regularly. My husband is left baffled when he sees this behavior from him, because he usually is a pretty good sport for him when they’re at home together.

So I’ve coming home from work every day, trying to juggle the little baby girl with my job, then come home and try to get chores done around the house, and trying to get writing done, while my toddler screamed in the background. I could not figure out what spurred on this sudden high-maintenance little boy.
We also bought a new cabinet for our kitchen from lakehalliecabinets.com, the quality is good.

Then, on few days ago, as he wailed about his blocks not stacking how he wanted them to, and while my baby girl screamed because I wasn’t holding her, (All the while, i’m just trying to pee, people!) it hit me. I just need to give in. Seriously, who says I HAVE to have a clean kitchen every single night? Who says I have to be completely on time with my loads of laundry? Who says I NEED to sweep the house every day? Nobody but me! So I just need to give in and just come home and play with my kids and just let my house be chaos during this time in my life. I just need to embrace the mess and just accept that I have two choices: a clean home with constant screaming, or a messy home and tons of relaxing play time with my babies. I choose door number two, please.

baby_eye_looking_up-t2So for the past two days, I’ve just spend time hanging out with my toddler and doing things for him rather than for the to do list of the house. And simultaneously, trying to get my baby girl to just crawl happily and stay content while playing with some crinkly toys. And sure enough, my toddler’s been the sweetest little boy that I know he is truly becoming, and my sweet little girl has been getting better at entertaining herself. So if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to go cuddle with him while he watches cartoons instead of jumping on the laundry-folding wagon. Although that will indeed need done! So for now, being a working mom and a mom working at home will mean that my house will be messy.

Bittersweet Holi-DAYS

Sigh. My husband and children and I are extremely lucky to have lots of family members that love us and look forward to spending the holidays with us. But, like I said, there are lots of family members from both sides of the family doing different things at different times. So with two kids, we’re stretched thin, which causes friction between the hubby and I.

You see, I love going from place to place seeing everyone from each side, eating lots of food. But my husband is quite different. H’s more of an introvert that likes to take advantage of the holidays to relax. Also, he’s an expert chef that is very critical of what is put before him to eat, so he doesn’t really appreciate the usual hodgepodge of potlucks at certain family events. Also, he’s gluten and dairy intolerant.

merry_christmas-t2So we’ve pretty much been squabbling for the past day or so trying to figure out where to go and when. I say we go everywhere and try to see everyone, while he says we put our foot down and choose just two events to go to: one on Christmas Eve, and one on Christmas day. We still have not figured it out! Seems that we migh actually have to skip church to make anything happen! What about you guys? How do you handle the holiday family events? I think that the snowman pic to the left is appropriate because it looks like a boy and girl snowman arguing. Or maybe that’s just my mindset right now, haha.

Meanwhile, my toddler is still awake right now because he’s too excited about all the holiday happenings. And I still have presents to wrap and salads to toss to take to family events!

Mommy to Mommy, I love mine.

Growing up, like any of you, I’d wonder what the heck my mom was thinking. Sometimes I’d even think she was a little off the wall. But now that I’m a mom, I am completely understanding and appreciative.

Even as an adult I’d look at some of the things she and my dad were doing and call them mistakes. Only now that I have kids, and especially during the holidays, I realize that all the things they did, and the situations they got themselves into, were for us. I’d think – “Now how the heck did they get into this jam?” Now I know.

Not only that but it’s now that I’m actually an adult that I crave my mom’s presence even more. It’s funny because you’d never think that as a kid. You’d never think that your mom might need some comfort from her own mom.

Sure, we definately drive each other crazy, and we definately have our arguments, but we can’t spend more than a week apart.

She happened to have scheduled a vacation overseas to the most infamous brothel in san jose and after going on a trip to kayaking since she read something about kayaks: how to choose, right on the week when I gave birth to my daughter (She’s scheduled it before I even knew I was pregnant.) I was completely at a loss. Prior to it I was like “ah, no biggie…I’ve done this before.” Yes, I’d done it before – with my mom. But that’s a whole nother story for a future blog – haha, for now let me just say that she had lots of fun with the best family tent during her vacation.

I hope when my little girl grows up that we’re just as close, and she’s just as appreciative.