Bringing the Second Baby Home? What will baby number one think?


Your first pride and joy is a whirl wind, a bundle of love, changes your life in the most positive ways possible. So much so, that you decide to have baby number two! Uh oh! What will center of your world number one think? Will you feel differently yourself? Will life change once again?

Yes, life will change once again; it’s another experience that will take some getting used to, but you can handle it. You’re a mommy, after all.

But most importantly, the first pride and joy will be okay, too. More than okay. With definite potential to building a great, new relationship with their brand new sibling.

But what can you do to help baby number one get used to the new baby?

  1. Don’t yell – Often kids naturally get confused and jealous about all of the attention the new baby is getting. And they’ll show that by hitting, pushing, and even more extreme measures. The important thing is to try and not just simply yell at the first child and then call it quits. Sternly look into their eyes, and tell them that it is not okay to hit the new baby. Then gently show them how to kiss the baby, hug the baby, and ask them to apologize to the baby, if they can talk yet. If they do it again, then put them in time out, and sit with them in time out, and explain why they are in time out, and that their only way out is to go apologize to the baby and to kiss the baby. And make sure your baby is sleeping with monitor
  2. in the room. So you can make sure baby is sleeping fine.


  3. Praise – Praise your child when he or she shows affection towards baby number two. Clap, cheer, and offer your own affection towards both babies. This will help child number one to understand that they will get more positive attention by showing positive interest into baby number one.
  4. Teach them to help take care of them – make it a habit to explain to child number one how much you love them, and that they should love their baby sister or brother just as much by protecting them and taking care of them.
  5. Get them involved – When you change the new baby’s diaper, ask child number one to help mommy by getting the diaper or wipes. Even have them fold the flaps over, and have them help you sing little songs to keep the baby happy as the diaper change happens. You can even have them help you throw the diaper into the Genie. This will give them a huge sense of pride and drive to help take care of the baby more often rather than want the baby to not be around.siblings
  6. Reach for them first – Baby number one doesn’t mind if they’re second to getting out of the car, or if you put them down to read baby number one a story. And infant also won’t know if they’re waiting for their feeding time because you’re taking care of your toddler in some way first. But if you do things in the opposite order, child number one might notice and get jealous. Take care of the older child’s needs first, and as baby number two gets older, explain to child number one that you need to take care of both babies in an equal importance scale.
  7. Keep ’em busy as your breastfeed – If you are done breastfeeding baby number one and are breastfeeding baby number two, get child number one a sippy cup of milk or juice, and have them sit next to you as you put your arm around them while you are feeding the new baby. This will keep baby number one involved, and less prone to feeling left out. You can also talk to them about what you are doing, and encourage them to talk to the new baby in order to keep the baby focused while you are breastfeeding rather than the baby falling asleep.¬† And remember, praise, praise, praise.
  8. Use them as a tool – The best thing about having older siblings to your new baby? They can help you! Make them feel important by telling them to help mommy and talk to the new baby while you try to cook, or have them get baby number two a towel while you give the baby a bath. Little things like that will mean the world to them.
  9. Share, share, share – Instill the sharing since the getgo. My Toddler Boy was terrible at sharing when Baby Girl was first born, and even has his moments of throwing a tantrum because she’s taking something of his. But when that happens, all I have to say to him is, “Hey, can you share with her, please?” And he just goes, “Ok!” And forks over whatever it is she wants. That’s because we have continuously praised him for sharing, and shown our disappointment when he is reluctant to share. He used to also refuse to share with myself and my husband, but we’ve never stood for it, so now he’s very open to sharing with us as well!

I actually used these techniques myself when I had the new baby, and for the most part, my toddler loves baby girl. Sometimes he does get jealous because I take the new baby to work only, when I used to take Toddler Boy to work before Baby Girl was born. But I try to keep him involved by having him help me shut the door behind us as we leave for work, or help me carry a bag to the car…and as soon as I get home, I hand Baby Girl to daddy, and reach for my Toddler Boy as soon as I can, showering him with kisses and telling him how much I missed him. Also any day possible that I think I can handle both kids at work with me, I take it. And we try to have fun things planned for Toddler Boy when I”m at work. So if he gets upset when I am leaving for work, I’ll remind him, “Hey! Grandma is coming to get you and take you to the park!” And that wipes any tears away instantly. And on my days off, I try to diminish the amount of time I spend cleaning or doing other chores, and save that stuff for when the kids go to bed. That way, I can spend my day doing fun things that refresh him like going to the zoo, or the pool, or on a trip to visit friends.

Today we were at the playground, and my Baby Girl caught a little boy’s attention. My Toddler Boy noticed and stood proudly next to my Baby Girl and hugged her, and said “This is my sister! I big! I brother,” with a huge smile on his face. So even though he has moments when maybe he just wants to bop his sister on the head because she keeps taking his toys, the majority of the time, he loves having her around.

Nipples for Bottles – here’s whatcha need to know

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babyeatingA soon-to-be-mommy that I’ve known for years¬† noticed that I didn’t have an entry about nipples for bottles 0n here, so I figured if she’s curious about it, so are others.

But here’s the beauty of it – there really isn’t much to write because the bottle manufacturers do the nipple thinking for you. You pretty much can only buy nipples that match the brand of bottles that you buy, otherwise the nipples won’t fit. But what you should know, the nipples come in different levels of milk flow that are appropriate for your child’s stage. A light trickle for newborns to three months, and then the flow intensity increases per stage. So be sure to pay attention to the stages that are marked on the nipples. Most bottle kits come with the first stage nipples. Which is actually kind of a pain when your baby is older and you’re looking into getting new bottles, but convenient for a baby shower registry.

You do want to make sure that the nipples are BPA free, and to boil them in hot water before using them for the first time. Also never put them in the dishwasher, otherwise they might rip. As soon as a nipple rips, you must toss it, because small particles of rubber can get into your child’s milk.

Also, you may want to hold off on going crazy on buying bottles and nipples if you are contemplating breast feeding. That’s because if you breastfeed and are with your babies most of the time, you really only need one or two bottles for when you absolutely have to leave them for more than a few hours. And even then, the breastfed baby might still refuse bottles. And if you are a breast feeding mom that works, you still want to hold off on buying too many bottles until you figure out which kind of bottle has a shape and nipple that is pleasing to your breast fed baby’s picky palate.

So at that point, you may want to look into nipples that have shorter tips to avoid bothering the sensitive gag reflexes that a breastfed baby is usually equipped with. I had good luck with this one. You will also see at the bottom of that entry that a friend of mine suggested a more inexpensive alternative for a bottle for breastfed babies.

Hope this helps, because to be honest if you Google “nipples for bottles,” the results aren’t that appropriate to your search…if ya know what I mean! Because I was trying to search for what kind of questions someone may have regarding them, and my eyes are a bit tainted now. Just kidding. But in all seriousness, if any of you have any other questions about nipples for bottles, feel free to ask on here, and I will be happy to answer them!


Hershey Lodge – Mommy Friendly

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I recently stayed at the Hershey Lodge in Hershey, Pennsylvania for a work convention, and I was very pleased with how accomodating they were to my need to pump. First, let me say that the hotel is very beautiful, very well-kept, the staff is friendly, and it is enormous with plenty of amenities to keep busy such as cafes, indoor pool, outdoor pool, the chocolate spa, on-site concierge ecc. The room I stayed in fulfilled my addiction of flat screen LG HD TV’s, which was on what looked like hand-crafted wooden cabinets that also incorporated other amenities like the mini fridge and such.

BUT the biggest thing for me, was that they were extremely breast feeding friendly. I had to leave my baby girl behind with daddy because I couldn’t get anyone to come on the trip with me to watch her. Which meant I had to bring the breast pump. This posed a problem. I arrived (very) late Monday night, and had the convention to attend on Tuesday until 7:00 p.m. Well, check out was at 11:00 a.m. leaving me nowhere to pump all day except for the public restrooms, which I was not cool with (I don’t think my colleagues would’ve looked at me the same if they’d witnessed me milking myself). So, I asked for a late check out, which they allowed me to have until 1:00 p.m. Which was definately to accomodate my pumping needs because they wouldn’t allow others to have late check outs due to the hotel being jam packed with conventions.

hersheyWell that still left me stumped on what to do till 7:00 p.m. Not to mention the four-hour drive thereafter to get home to baby girl. I mean I was even contemplating just using my car and a hand held pump I’d brought for back up, or sitting on a toilet with a hand held pump. But the idea was just too unappealing, and I’m a weirdo and could just picture someone seeing me in there for that long and assuming other things. Just couldn’t do it. So I approached a female hotel hostess at the end of the day and asked her if there was anything any more private than the bathrooms for me to use as a facility to pump. I was expecting a closet or even an office. No, they were extremely accommodating, and actually allowed me to use one of the smaller vacant rooms at the hotel for the time needed right before my departure. The girl I had asked for help walked me to the room, and waited for me outside and everything (In the cold! I should have asked her name! She was great!)

So I was able to pump, and on my way home in a jiff. I mean I had even contemplated going to a store in a mall of some sort after the convention and using their dressing rooms! I was desperate! And just wanted to get it out of the way, and get home! So I give the Hershey Lodge a total thumbs up!