My Toddler’s Frisky Hands

It started out of nowhere. I mean weaning my son at 14 months was actually not that big of a deal. He seemed to wean himself and not ask for it much. I would have breastfed longer if I hadn’t been pregnant with my second child. But, alas, it was done.

Where it all began...
Where it all began...

That’s why I was surprised when all of a sudden when he was a little over two years old, he began to have the need to stick his hand down the middle of my shirt and yes, sometimes, even on my actual nipple. Embarrassing, but true. And since he sleeps in bed with me ( Another bad habit I’m working on), it often disrupts my sleep.

So I asked my doctor about it, of course. I thought it might have been out of jealousy of his younger, still nursing, baby sister, but apparently not. My doctor told me that her own daughter, which is a single child and about the same age as my son, has been doing the same thing, and not just to get herself to sleep either. But as a public display of affection for her mother, if ya get my drift!

What does she attribute this behavior to? Just a simple a stage of a growing toddler. Even though they can walk and talk and begin to do some things for themselves, they still want the comfort of their mommy. So all you can do is be consistent with just continuing to pull his or her hand out of your shirt and letting them know that you don’t like that. But be loving and gentle about it, because like I said, they do it for comfort, and you don’t want to shock them into feeling like you still can’t be a source of love and comfort for them.


Is co-sleeping a good or bad habit? Like anything else, experts have different ideas, and different ways to handle this situation.

I asked my pediatrician that same question because my first-born son would not sleep in his crib. Now keep that phrase in mind: would not sleep in his crib. He would scream and cry every time we would put him in there, so the crib actually ended up what we would use as a punishment when he would not behave. So I asked one of the doctors from our pediatrician’s office, Dr. Mary Lam from Pediatric Alliance, who said that is is perfectly normal for children to share beds with their parents. She said that for many Asian cultures, that is actually the norm. Of course, though, you deal with the downfall that you really don’t get a good night’s sleep because if you child is like mine, he’s constantly kicking, moving, tossing, turning, and right now, insists on sticking his hand down my shirt, also more and more people are finding out that the root cause of their sleep problems stem from Central Sleep Apnea once they have been properly tested.. Also, it often kicks the hubby out of the picture, causing you to no longer share bedrooms and therefore have less pillow talk.